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Internet romance Can it actually work?

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Posted 15 April 2007 - 06:53 AM

Well, this couple certainly seem to think so!

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Man proposes after four minutes

A single father-of-two proposed to an American woman he met on the internet four minutes after flying 4,000 miles to see her for the first time.
Carl Dockings, 36, from Newport, south Wales, popped the question to Danielle at Chicago's O'Hare Airport after the pair met playing cards on the internet.

The 26-year-old said "yes" and the couple were married four months later.

The pair are now settled in his home city with their daughter Isabel, who was born on New Year's Day.

Council worker Mr Dockings explained how the couple met while playing the card game gin online.

He said: "I'd always liked cards and was filling in the evening. I went on there and bumped into Danielle playing in a card game and we hit it off straight away.

"I was inundated with work and the computer was where I went to relax and wind down and that's where I found Danielle.

"We got on so well. We just seemed to know what the other was thinking.

"Danielle's the most loving, caring person I've ever met and that came through straight away."

'Terrified'

Mr Dockings said the pair had fallen in love before even exchanging pictures, but that sending a photograph was still a "nerve-wracking" experience.

He said: "We finally agreed to swap photos and Danielle sent one over first - after seeing the photo of her I was terrified of sending the photo of myself."

When Mr Docking flew to Chicago to meet his bride-to-be, who is from nearby Wisconsin, he did not waste time before popping the question.

Mr Docking, who also has children aged six and nine, said: "I gave her a cuddle and a kiss and told her how happy I was being there.

"We walked for a couple of minutes to the train station at Chicago airport and I thought 'I've got to have this woman for life' and that's when I popped the question and I went down and proposed to her."

'Good conversation'

Mrs Docking said the proposal was not a complete surprise after the pair had got to know each other through months of online messaging.

She said: "I had a feeling he would [propose] - we'd talked about it.

"We were chatting and emailing and playing cards for about 10 months.

"It was good conversation - there was never any awkward silence. He was really funny and we seemed to click right away.

"I was able to pick up on how loving and caring he was because we would talk about our day to day lives and he would talk about how he was with his kids.

"I fell in love with his personality and the kind of person he was."


So, what do people think? Can the 'spark' people talk about so much in real life exist online also? Can you develop feelings this strongly for people you have never actually seen in the flesh? Is this a positive thing? Does talking to someone online actually force you to build an image of someone based on their personality rather than looks? Does the fact that you have to work harder at it make an online relationship stronger as a result?

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Posted 15 April 2007 - 10:26 AM

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Internet Romance, can it actually work?


Apperently so
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Posted 15 April 2007 - 12:05 PM

You know they split up, like years and years ago, right?

Infact, I think Floozy might be getting married...
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Posted 15 April 2007 - 12:09 PM

I think you know the answer to this one Lek.

Yes, most certainly it can.
Whatever happens..happens.

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Posted 15 April 2007 - 12:30 PM

No.

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Posted 15 April 2007 - 12:35 PM

Work as well as any romance, I suppose.

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Posted 15 April 2007 - 01:17 PM

It depends-probably on the same factors as any other relationship.
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Posted 15 April 2007 - 01:30 PM

I think it also has a lot to do with whether the two can actually be together outside of the internet. There's a big difference in relationships that are 40 miles away and 3,000. Not to mention what the relationship consists of. If it's been two weeks and you both thinik you're in love, you probably aren't. It's not an overnight thing, same as real life relationships.
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Posted 15 April 2007 - 04:52 PM

Not for me.
Maybe for someone else.
But not for me.
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Posted 15 April 2007 - 05:42 PM

View PostLektor, on Apr 15 2007, 01:05 PM, said:

You know they split up, like years and years ago, right?


Yeah, but at the time it was a beautiful thing
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Posted 15 April 2007 - 11:07 PM

View PostRickton, on Apr 15 2007, 03:52 PM, said:

Not for me.
Maybe for someone else.
But not for me.


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It's a false formatting tease
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Posted 16 April 2007 - 01:02 AM

Internet Romance
Your soft skin receives my touch
yet I feel you not
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Posted 16 April 2007 - 01:19 AM

I've always felt that
Haiku are overrated.
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Posted 16 April 2007 - 01:28 AM

I don't really like poetry. Only some, but haiku are not included.
Whatever happens..happens.

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Posted 16 April 2007 - 05:37 PM

It's kinda depressing how quickly this strayed from the actual topic.

Anyway... Internet romances would probably work no matter what if you lowered your standards enough. But nobody wants that.

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Posted 16 April 2007 - 07:21 PM

View PostLektor, on Apr 15 2007, 05:53 AM, said:

So, what do people think? Can the 'spark' people talk about so much in real life exist online also? Can you develop feelings this strongly for people you have never actually seen in the flesh? Is this a positive thing? Does talking to someone online actually force you to build an image of someone based on their personality rather than looks? Does the fact that you have to work harder at it make an online relationship stronger as a result?

Discuss!

Yes, yes, and maybe. With an online relationship there's a bit more trust involved, trust that the person you're talking to is who they really claim to be. There's also, as someone pointed out, a major geographical barrier one (or both) parties will have to overcome. If you're wanting to get involved with someone three thousand miles away (or even in another country), one of you has to be willing to give up quite a bit for it to work out.

I think the fourth question is also a yes, because you find out about their personality before you find out about their looks (usually), so you usually have an impression of who they are before you see what they are. I don't know if it necessarily makes the relationship stronger, it'd be interesting to look up all those couples that met through video games (the Diablo II couple, for instance), and see how they are turning out several years later.
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Posted 16 April 2007 - 08:19 PM

It could work, its just that most people this "not for me, I'm going to find someone the old-fashioned way"
I am one of those people.

The main difference I can see is that IRL looks are a much bigger factor. Over the internet, you can't tell until you know if you'll like the person personality-wise.
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Posted 16 April 2007 - 09:03 PM

It really depends on how solid the original foundation is. If you're only "so-so" involved.. it's going to blow over. But if you really trust that person, I believe the personality is seen through the computer.. somehow..
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Posted 17 April 2007 - 03:49 AM

View Postmoonunit4eva, on Apr 17 2007, 12:03 PM, said:

It really depends on how solid the original foundation is. If you're only "so-so" involved.. it's going to blow over. But if you really trust that person, I believe the personality is seen through the computer.. somehow..


If you can see someone's personality through teh internets, I'm REALLY screwed.
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Posted 17 April 2007 - 11:31 AM

My guess is you probably have to want the other person to see it. And if it's real what's happening then you can. But, if you don't want the other person to see your real personality, it won't come through, or they will be deceived (which is bad) but that suggests the relationship may be superficial.
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Posted 19 April 2007 - 06:57 PM

If by romance, you mean ######ing, then yes.
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Posted 19 April 2007 - 09:14 PM

View PostMispeled, on Apr 19 2007, 07:57 PM, said:

If by romance, you mean ######ing, then yes.


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Posted 19 April 2007 - 10:02 PM

I don't think that qualifies.
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Posted 19 April 2007 - 11:06 PM

Indeed it doesn't.
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Posted 19 April 2007 - 11:49 PM

Depends on who you're doing it with.

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